Partners who are not LotR fans

[Rindoien, elf of Lothlorien]

Do you have a partner who is not a LotR fan? If so, do you try to 'convert' them or just leave it be? My boyfriend Liam adamantly doesn't like LotR except for that 'cool dwarf dude - Gimli'. Feel free to discuss.

[Meela]

Yes, I am in one of those relationships. Okay, so he doesn't mind it, but he's not really a fan. He takes me to see the films sometimes, or we sit down and watch the dvds and have a good laugh at them. But I don't try and convert him.
We keep our separate interests... well, separate. He keeps his work in one room, and I keep a separate room for all my Lotr posters, books, etc. They're our own separate 'hobby' rooms, or the sort. I can stay in there and relax in my own little world of Denethor.

And he's only a little bit jealous smilies/cool.gif

[Burzdol]

My girlfriend is okay with LotR, but she's jealous of Liv Tyler because all of my friends talk about her, and my girlfriend thinks I do too. I guess that's life.

[The Saucepan Man]

My wife was convinced at a young age, by members of her family, that she would not enjoy LotR. Accordingly, she resisted all my attempts to persuade her to read it. Then we went to see the film of FotR together and she was captivated by it. She proceeded to read the book and absolutely loved it. She now plans to read it a second time and is, if anything, more excited than me at the prospect of seeing the RotK film in three days time.

It just goes to show how wrong people can be in pre-judging whether they themselves, or those close to them, may or may not enjoy a particular book.

[Lord of Angmar]

Don't get me started........

[Gashberz]

OMG!!! Its one of the main arguments with my girlfriend! See I love LOTR she on the other hand loves Harry Potter. See thats not a bad series but still she will not see reason! Lord of the Rings rules all that that call themselves fantasy!
-Cheers!

[Novberaid]

Definitely a subject I am not allowed to discuss. My wife could care less what I do concerning LOTR. If an actor or actress appears in another movie and I say "Hey, do you know who that is?", it always ends with "I don't care." Guess it could be worse, I could be married to someone who was a bigger fan than me. I'll keep the one I have.

[Finwe]

I guess I'm one of the lucky few then. My boyfriend loves the movies and is absolutely obsessed by them. I, on the other hand, am extremely obsessed with the Books AND the Movies. We get into some fairly interesting conversations. smilies/biggrin.gif

[manaratowen]

hubby jsut cant understand it all. the stories or the books. he hasent even read the books, but i leave him to his own devices and he in turn leaves me to mine. and we all sit and watch the dvds together, but hell sit there and ask "ok, now whos this person?" hehe, kida funny when a 3 year old answers him instead of me...lol.

[Lindril Arvilya]

My boyfriend enjoys the books and movies, but isn't what you'd call a "fan"... i.e. He's going to wait to see RotK until New Year's Eve, with me (our anniversary, mmm!), whereas I'm going as many times as possible.
Oh well, at least I can seem smart about something. Hoorah!

Lindril (I need to feel valued) Arvilya

[Rumil]

A tip for the gentleman Tolkienites out there - start with the story of Beren and Luthien!

Plus points for being poetic, a strong female character, evoking a relatioship between a sweaty bloke and an un-naturally attractive princess - Works every time!

[Lord of Angmar]

Rumil, that is some of the best Tolkien-related advice I have ever heard.

[Altariel]

Oh, yes. smilies/smile.gif My boyfriend will come to the movies with me, listen to me rant about Elves and Ainur and Silmarils and try to understand, and, to his credit, doesn't seem at all annoyed when I drool uncontrollably over Feanor (I think I'm the only Feanor fangirl I know...). It's nice of him to pretend to care. smilies/wink.gif

[Oroaranion]

HMMM... well my very recent ex girlfriend has read the books once, and seen the first two movies, but she is not as obsessed about it as me. Also my friends think I am weird and there is only one person I can really talk about it to (the guy who be short, see, we're in the same year at school). Why is being interested in LotR considered weird?

[Fosco Burrows]

My girlfriend was converted by me after I was converted by my workmates. My uni housemate is semi-converted which is a nightmare as all he does is ask questions about the films but refuse to read the books!!
FB

[DarkRose]

All of my past "love interests", if you will (I have issues with formal titles and such smilies/wink.gif ) have not like LOTR in the least. They find it weird and strange and go no further than that. They'd rather be horsing around or watching NFL on television.

Ah, such is my luck. smilies/rolleyes.gif

[Nilpaurion Felagund]

My alter-ego hates LotR.

Wait, I need to explain. He's a psychopatic serial killer who's after only one cross paths... smilies/rolleyes.gif

EDIT: Get out of here, Nilpaurion...it's for partners, not alter-egos.

[ January 16, 2004: Message edited by: Someone who cares ]

[silma]

My boyfriend loathes anything to do with LotR and he's not even read the books!!!! In fact he hates it so much he wouldn't even go to see the films with me.
He gets annoyed with me cause I spend so much time online talking to other Tolkien fans cause he thinks I should be spending the time with him.
Don't get me wrong, this is the only issue we have everything else is great, but it can be really hard for me because this has been my greatest interest for the past 20 years of my life and I can't do without (I tried for the first couple of years but I just got so unhappy)
Anytime I mention anything Tolkien related I can see his eyes glaze over and a scowl appear on his usually handsome face, I really would like to share this with him but it's never going to happen.

[Feanor of the Peredhil]

Oooh... I was so scared recently... I've been interested in the same guy for monthes now, and it's finally going somewhere, but I was terrified that he'd hate LotR and think I'm nuts, since most of my friends are like that. Then what happens? He took me to see RotK and revealed that he's got the Extended Editions of both FotR and TTT!!! Mind you, we did make fun of a little bit of the movies... actually, a lot. But not the books. Never the books. :D Ooh... so great. The last guy I was interested in though... his LotR knowledge extended about as far as "That gay Elf guy that all the girls have the hots for." It was pretty funny, actually...

Fea

Oh yeah- Altariel, I've got a bit of a Feanor thing too. I've spent over an hour arguing with my teachers about his "evilness" It was NOT his fault! He was the best, of course... even the Valar admitted it. ;)

[Eorl of Rohan]

I am the ONLY person I ever know in REAL world who READ LOTR. It frustrates me. At least you have people you can discuss the book with, however much they hate it.

In Korea, LOTR translation is twisted to a baby story with lots of color pictures portraying Sauron as wearing a large helmet and big boots with a sword.

They ask me in wonder, "I thought you were a bookworm! I never knew you'd read childish fantasies like THESE," whic h makes me explode and recite all the poetry in LOTR. They can't understand English, though, so...

I do not have a boyfriend, but I ahve many friends, whom all runs for cover if I mention LOTR.