I went looking for the upload option this morning and I didn't find it either, but also it says I have 0 avatars (listing 1-0 of 0 in my list). I'm not sure what that's about, because I do see my self-hosted one. Perhaps it was a hallucination, because I certainly remember the upload option!
Anyway, I actually came over here to mention something nitpicky indeed: at the bottom of every forum page is a link back to the main BD site. On every one of them so far, including this reply page, the link doesn't work, because there is one too many slashes in the URL:
http:///www.barrowdowns.com .
Cheers!
Lyta