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Finwe · 09-09-2003, 07:47 PM

We also have to understand, that he KNOWS what it was like to lose his family. Did Arwen lose her twin brother to mortality and eventual death? Did Arwen have to suffer through a kidnapping at an early age? Did Arwen have to witness her mother jumping off a balcony to save a jewel? No, she didn't! Look what Elrond went through compared to Arwen. She thinks that by being in love, everything is going to turn out fine and dandy for her. But Elrond knows that it won't. <P>I'm not using that as an excuse for Elrond to treat Aragorn coldly, because even I believe that he was a bit too cold in the movie. But he was merely playing the part of a father who knows that his child will be hurt, not only his child, but his only daughter. Would any responsible parent let their child be hurt? Granted, Elrond should let Arwen take a few risks here and there, because that is what life is about, but he is still her father.<P>Coming from a very structured nuclear family (I'm Indian), I can understand things from both Elrond's perspective and Arwen's (or Aragorn's) perspective, because things like that have happened to me. I have been forced to give up someone who I loved a lot because my parents didn't want me to date. And I really mean it when I say that I was in love with that person. I'll bet that most of you do not know how that feels, to not be able to even love someone without your parents' consent. It is heartbreaking, or rather, it was at the time. But now I look back, and I realize why my parents did that. Yes, it may seem harsh, cold, and cruel, but at the time, I was blinded by love. I thought that guy was THE guy for me, and I was mistaken. If I had been allowed to date that guy (as I reminisce), I would have probably ended up as a druggie, alcoholic, or far worse, a teenage mother. Now I know that Aragorn had the best of intentions, but love is overpoweringly blinding. <P>All Elrond wanted to do was protect his daughter, because he knew that she would eventually have to face the death of her soulmate, and that is something that is not easily taken. Elrond lost his twin, seemingly his other self, to that same fate, and after going through that pain, as a responsible, loving, caring father, he would not want his children to go through that same fate.

09-09-2003, 07:47 PM	#5
Finwe Deathless Sun Join Date: May 2003 Location: The Royal Suite in the Halls of Mandos Posts: 2,609	We also have to understand, that he KNOWS what it was like to lose his family. Did Arwen lose her twin brother to mortality and eventual death? Did Arwen have to suffer through a kidnapping at an early age? Did Arwen have to witness her mother jumping off a balcony to save a jewel? No, she didn't! Look what Elrond went through compared to Arwen. She thinks that by being in love, everything is going to turn out fine and dandy for her. But Elrond knows that it won't. <P>I'm not using that as an excuse for Elrond to treat Aragorn coldly, because even I believe that he was a bit too cold in the movie. But he was merely playing the part of a father who knows that his child will be hurt, not only his child, but his only daughter. Would any responsible parent let their child be hurt? Granted, Elrond should let Arwen take a few risks here and there, because that is what life is about, but he is still her father.<P>Coming from a very structured nuclear family (I'm Indian), I can understand things from both Elrond's perspective and Arwen's (or Aragorn's) perspective, because things like that have happened to me. I have been forced to give up someone who I loved a lot because my parents didn't want me to date. And I really mean it when I say that I was in love with that person. I'll bet that most of you do not know how that feels, to not be able to even love someone without your parents' consent. It is heartbreaking, or rather, it was at the time. But now I look back, and I realize why my parents did that. Yes, it may seem harsh, cold, and cruel, but at the time, I was blinded by love. I thought that guy was THE guy for me, and I was mistaken. If I had been allowed to date that guy (as I reminisce), I would have probably ended up as a druggie, alcoholic, or far worse, a teenage mother. Now I know that Aragorn had the best of intentions, but love is overpoweringly blinding. <P>All Elrond wanted to do was protect his daughter, because he knew that she would eventually have to face the death of her soulmate, and that is something that is not easily taken. Elrond lost his twin, seemingly his other self, to that same fate, and after going through that pain, as a responsible, loving, caring father, he would not want his children to go through that same fate. __________________ But Melkor also was there, and he came to the house of Fëanor, and there he slew Finwë King of the Noldor before his doors, and spilled the first blood in the Blessed Realm; for Finwë alone had not fled from the horror of the Dark.