Actually it was the doubt of Celeborn I was thinking of but I didn't have the Fellowship on me ( I am resorting to cyber cafes at the moment for reasons too tedious to go into) when he he learns of the balrog .... and then Galadriel tells him not and he says "I did not know your plight was so evil" but I should have been more specific.....and on reflection... it wasn't as close as Firefoot's since Celeborn was more mistrusting his own decision rather than another person - so don't have any concerns on my account
BTW I am a "she" but I am not going to freak if I am called a he... I have an androgynous name in real life so I am quite used to it......