[Mithalwen]

Well said Mister Underhill - and I would also say that Eowyn doesn't become passive but merely changes direction. I don't think we could assume she would devote herself to promoting life as a healer and gardener with any less passion and energy than she gave to bringing death to the enemies of her land. Nor do I think she stops being a feminist either because she fulfils her femininity as a wife and mother as well as her humanity. And while Faramir may not have a docile wife, you can't imagine him trying or wanting to break her spirit as his own mother's spirit was broken. They are a complementary pair and have about the only relationship to envy in the canon.