Morthoron, I'm also talking from personal experience.
I'm sure we all at some point in time (and several times more) are pests.
P.S. see if
the phantom sends you a PM that doesn't just mean it was important enough that he noticed, but that it was so important he spent his own time to send a personal response. If
Esty sends you something, by her own admission, it probably isn't a good thing. So really what it boils down to, is you need to get
tp's attention and be annoying (in moderation).