Was it mean by Elrond?

[Evisse the Blue]

I've always kinda disliked Elrond, for reasons i cannot quite name. Yes, he's wise and all, but...he has something selfish about him - and that is very transparent when he tells Aragorn that unless he's king he cannot marry Arwen.

That sounds to me like a petty and 'unelvish' thing to say.

I know most of you disagree, especially in the light that Elrond was inspired by the priest whom Tolkien obviously cared a lot for. But - you can care a lot for someone and still be selfish in your actions. Elrond obviously didn't consider that Arwen would have been miserable without Aragorn. He just thought about how miserable he would be if he lost her.