Partners who are not LotR fans - The Barrow-Downs Discussion Forum

Rindoien, elf of Lothlorien · 12-15-2003, 01:36 PM

Do you have a partner who is not a LotR fan? If so, do you try to 'convert' them or just leave it be? My boyfriend Liam adamantly doesn't like LotR except for that 'cool dwarf dude - Gimli'. Feel free to discuss.

Meela · 12-15-2003, 04:15 PM

Yes, I am in one of those relationships. Okay, so he doesn't mind it, but he's not really a fan. He takes me to see the films sometimes, or we sit down and watch the dvds and have a good laugh at them. But I don't try and convert him.
We keep our separate interests... well, separate. He keeps his work in one room, and I keep a separate room for all my Lotr posters, books, etc. They're our own separate 'hobby' rooms, or the sort. I can stay in there and relax in my own little world of Denethor.

And he's only a little bit jealous [img]smilies/cool.gif[/img]

Burzdol · 12-15-2003, 04:36 PM

My girlfriend is okay with LotR, but she's jealous of Liv Tyler because all of my friends talk about her, and my girlfriend thinks I do too. I guess that's life.

**The Saucepan Man** · 12-15-2003, 08:59 PM

My wife was convinced at a young age, by members of her family, that she would not enjoy LotR. Accordingly, she resisted all my attempts to persuade her to read it. Then we went to see the film of FotR together and she was captivated by it. She proceeded to read the book and absolutely loved it. She now plans to read it a second time and is, if anything, more excited than me at the prospect of seeing the RotK film in three days time.

It just goes to show how wrong people can be in pre-judging whether they themselves, or those close to them, may or may not enjoy a particular book.

Lord of Angmar · 12-15-2003, 09:04 PM

Don't get me started........

Gashberz · 12-15-2003, 09:45 PM

OMG!!! Its one of the main arguments with my girlfriend! See I love LOTR she on the other hand loves Harry Potter. See thats not a bad series but still she will not see reason! Lord of the Rings rules all that that call themselves fantasy!
-Cheers!

Novberaid · 12-16-2003, 06:41 PM

Definitely a subject I am not allowed to discuss. My wife could care less what I do concerning LOTR. If an actor or actress appears in another movie and I say "Hey, do you know who that is?", it always ends with "I don't care." Guess it could be worse, I could be married to someone who was a bigger fan than me. I'll keep the one I have.

Finwe · 12-16-2003, 10:25 PM

I guess I'm one of the lucky few then. My boyfriend loves the movies and is absolutely obsessed by them. I, on the other hand, am extremely obsessed with the Books AND the Movies. We get into some fairly interesting conversations. [img]smilies/biggrin.gif[/img]

manaratowen · 12-16-2003, 11:21 PM

hubby jsut cant understand it all. the stories or the books. he hasent even read the books, but i leave him to his own devices and he in turn leaves me to mine. and we all sit and watch the dvds together, but hell sit there and ask "ok, now whos this person?" hehe, kida funny when a 3 year old answers him instead of me...lol.

Lindril Arvilya · 12-17-2003, 01:47 PM

My boyfriend enjoys the books and movies, but isn't what you'd call a "fan"... i.e. He's going to wait to see RotK until New Year's Eve, with me (our anniversary, mmm!), whereas I'm going as many times as possible.
Oh well, at least I can seem smart about something. Hoorah!

Lindril (I need to feel valued) Arvilya

Rumil · 12-23-2003, 08:03 PM

A tip for the gentleman Tolkienites out there - start with the story of Beren and Luthien!

Plus points for being poetic, a strong female character, evoking a relatioship between a sweaty bloke and an un-naturally attractive princess - Works every time!

Lord of Angmar · 12-23-2003, 08:15 PM

Rumil, that is some of the best Tolkien-related advice I have ever heard.

Altariel · 12-23-2003, 10:11 PM

Oh, yes. [img]smilies/smile.gif[/img] My boyfriend will come to the movies with me, listen to me rant about Elves and Ainur and Silmarils and try to understand, and, to his credit, doesn't seem at all annoyed when I drool uncontrollably over Feanor (I think I'm the only Feanor fangirl I know...). It's nice of him to pretend to care. [img]smilies/wink.gif[/img]

Oroaranion · 01-11-2004, 11:41 AM

HMMM... well my very recent ex girlfriend has read the books once, and seen the first two movies, but she is not as obsessed about it as me. Also my friends think I am weird and there is only one person I can really talk about it to (the guy who be short, see, we're in the same year at school). Why is being interested in LotR considered weird?

Fosco Burrows · 01-11-2004, 03:27 PM

My girlfriend was converted by me after I was converted by my workmates. My uni housemate is semi-converted which is a nightmare as all he does is ask questions about the films but refuse to read the books!!
FB

DarkRose · 01-15-2004, 10:59 PM

All of my past "love interests", if you will (I have issues with formal titles and such [img]smilies/wink.gif[/img] ) have not like LOTR in the least. They find it weird and strange and go no further than that. They'd rather be horsing around or watching NFL on television.

Ah, such is my luck. [img]smilies/rolleyes.gif[/img]

Nilpaurion Felagund · 01-15-2004, 11:38 PM

My alter-ego hates LotR.

Wait, I need to explain. He's a psychopatic serial killer who's after only one cross paths... [img]smilies/rolleyes.gif[/img]

EDIT: Get out of here, Nilpaurion...it's for partners, not alter-egos.

[ January 16, 2004: Message edited by: Someone who cares ]

02-14-2004, 02:15 AM

My boyfriend loathes anything to do with LotR and he's not even read the books!!!! In fact he hates it so much he wouldn't even go to see the films with me.
He gets annoyed with me cause I spend so much time online talking to other Tolkien fans cause he thinks I should be spending the time with him.
Don't get me wrong, this is the only issue we have everything else is great, but it can be really hard for me because this has been my greatest interest for the past 20 years of my life and I can't do without (I tried for the first couple of years but I just got so unhappy)
Anytime I mention anything Tolkien related I can see his eyes glaze over and a scowl appear on his usually handsome face, I really would like to share this with him but it's never going to happen.

Feanor of the Peredhil · 02-17-2004, 09:46 AM

Oooh... I was so scared recently... I've been interested in the same guy for monthes now, and it's finally going somewhere, but I was terrified that he'd hate LotR and think I'm nuts, since most of my friends are like that. Then what happens? He took me to see RotK and revealed that he's got the Extended Editions of both FotR and TTT!!! Mind you, we did make fun of a little bit of the movies... actually, a lot. But not the books. Never the books.

Ooh... so great. The last guy I was interested in though... his LotR knowledge extended about as far as "That gay Elf guy that all the girls have the hots for." It was pretty funny, actually...

Fea

Oh yeah- Altariel, I've got a bit of a Feanor thing too. I've spent over an hour arguing with my teachers about his "evilness" It was NOT his fault! He was the best, of course... even the Valar admitted it.

Eorl of Rohan · 02-18-2004, 06:33 AM

I am the ONLY person I ever know in REAL world who READ LOTR. It frustrates me. At least you have people you can discuss the book with, however much they hate it.

In Korea, LOTR translation is twisted to a baby story with lots of color pictures portraying Sauron as wearing a large helmet and big boots with a sword.

They ask me in wonder, "I thought you were a bookworm! I never knew you'd read childish fantasies like THESE," whic h makes me explode and recite all the poetry in LOTR. They can't understand English, though, so...

I do not have a boyfriend, but I ahve many friends, whom all runs for cover if I mention LOTR.

12-15-2003, 01:36 PM	#1
Rindoien, elf of Lothlorien Haunting Spirit Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Wales...hrumph, wish it was Lorien.. Posts: 89	Partners who are not LotR fans Do you have a partner who is not a LotR fan? If so, do you try to 'convert' them or just leave it be? My boyfriend Liam adamantly doesn't like LotR except for that 'cool dwarf dude - Gimli'. Feel free to discuss. __________________ "And he sang to them, now in the Elven tongue, now in the speech of the West, until their hearts, wounded with sweet words, overflowed, and their joy was like swords, and they passed in thought out to regions where pain and delight flow together and tears are the very wine of blessedness."

12-15-2003, 04:15 PM	#2
Meela Denethor's True Love Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Mirkwood. With Thranduil... swoon Posts: 2,118	Yes, I am in one of those relationships. Okay, so he doesn't mind it, but he's not really a fan. He takes me to see the films sometimes, or we sit down and watch the dvds and have a good laugh at them. But I don't try and convert him. We keep our separate interests... well, separate. He keeps his work in one room, and I keep a separate room for all my Lotr posters, books, etc. They're our own separate 'hobby' rooms, or the sort. I can stay in there and relax in my own little world of Denethor. And he's only a little bit jealous [img]smilies/cool.gif[/img] __________________ 'The Hobbit' 1st impressions: 1. Thorin is hot... Oh god, I fancy a dwarf. 2. Thranduil is hotter. 3. Is that... Figwit! 4. Does Elijah Wood never age? 2nd: It's all about Fili & Kili, really. 3rd: BARD! OMG, Bard.

12-15-2003, 04:36 PM	#3
Burzdol Shade of Carn Dûm Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: The Fair City of Rivendell Posts: 276	My girlfriend is okay with LotR, but she's jealous of Liv Tyler because all of my friends talk about her, and my girlfriend thinks I do too. I guess that's life. __________________ "Kill them all for all I care. You just keep that bow away from me!"

12-15-2003, 08:59 PM	#4
The Saucepan Man Corpus Cacophonous Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: A green and pleasant land Posts: 8,468	My wife was convinced at a young age, by members of her family, that she would not enjoy LotR. Accordingly, she resisted all my attempts to persuade her to read it. Then we went to see the film of FotR together and she was captivated by it. She proceeded to read the book and absolutely loved it. She now plans to read it a second time and is, if anything, more excited than me at the prospect of seeing the RotK film in three days time. It just goes to show how wrong people can be in pre-judging whether they themselves, or those close to them, may or may not enjoy a particular book. __________________ Do you mind? I'm busy doing the fishstick. It's a very delicate state of mind!

12-15-2003, 09:04 PM	#5
Lord of Angmar Tyrannus Incorporalis Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: the North Posts: 833	Don't get me started........ __________________ ...where the instrument of intelligence is added to brute power and evil will, mankind is powerless in its own defence.

12-15-2003, 09:45 PM	#6
Gashberz Haunting Spirit Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: San Diego, U.S.A Posts: 57	OMG!!! Its one of the main arguments with my girlfriend! See I love LOTR she on the other hand loves Harry Potter. See thats not a bad series but still she will not see reason! Lord of the Rings rules all that that call themselves fantasy! -Cheers! __________________ "We are the fighting Uruk-hai! We slew the great warrior. We took the prisoners. We are the servants of Saruman the Wise, the White Hand: the Hand that gives us man´s flesh to eat!" -Uglúk

12-16-2003, 06:41 PM	#7
Novberaid Animated Skeleton Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Mirkwood Forest Posts: 45	Definitely a subject I am not allowed to discuss. My wife could care less what I do concerning LOTR. If an actor or actress appears in another movie and I say "Hey, do you know who that is?", it always ends with "I don't care." Guess it could be worse, I could be married to someone who was a bigger fan than me. I'll keep the one I have. __________________ By the starlit mere of Cuivienen, they rose from the sleep of Iluvatar

12-16-2003, 10:25 PM	#8
Finwe Deathless Sun Join Date: May 2003 Location: The Royal Suite in the Halls of Mandos Posts: 2,609	I guess I'm one of the lucky few then. My boyfriend loves the movies and is absolutely obsessed by them. I, on the other hand, am extremely obsessed with the Books AND the Movies. We get into some fairly interesting conversations. [img]smilies/biggrin.gif[/img] __________________ But Melkor also was there, and he came to the house of Fëanor, and there he slew Finwë King of the Noldor before his doors, and spilled the first blood in the Blessed Realm; for Finwë alone had not fled from the horror of the Dark.

12-16-2003, 11:21 PM	#9
manaratowen Pile O'Bones Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Wheaton Posts: 23	hubby jsut cant understand it all. the stories or the books. he hasent even read the books, but i leave him to his own devices and he in turn leaves me to mine. and we all sit and watch the dvds together, but hell sit there and ask "ok, now whos this person?" hehe, kida funny when a 3 year old answers him instead of me...lol. __________________ "If we deny love that is given to us, if we refuse to give love because we fear the pain of loss, then our lives will be empty, our loss greater."

12-17-2003, 01:47 PM	#10
Lindril Arvilya Shade of Carn Dûm Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: In a box at the end of Harrison Ford's street, with a pair of binoculars Posts: 336	My boyfriend enjoys the books and movies, but isn't what you'd call a "fan"... i.e. He's going to wait to see RotK until New Year's Eve, with me (our anniversary, mmm!), whereas I'm going as many times as possible. Oh well, at least I can seem smart about something. Hoorah! Lindril (I need to feel valued) Arvilya __________________ Neo, watch out! Trinity's going to steal your pants! Pants thief! Pants thief!

12-23-2003, 08:03 PM	#11
Rumil Sage & Onions Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Britain Posts: 894	A tip for the gentleman Tolkienites out there - start with the story of Beren and Luthien! Plus points for being poetic, a strong female character, evoking a relatioship between a sweaty bloke and an un-naturally attractive princess - Works every time! __________________ Rumil of Coedhirion

12-23-2003, 08:15 PM	#12
Lord of Angmar Tyrannus Incorporalis Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: the North Posts: 833	Rumil, that is some of the best Tolkien-related advice I have ever heard. __________________ ...where the instrument of intelligence is added to brute power and evil will, mankind is powerless in its own defence.

12-23-2003, 10:11 PM	#13
Altariel Animated Skeleton Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Angband (a small region in northern BC) Posts: 50	Oh, yes. [img]smilies/smile.gif[/img] My boyfriend will come to the movies with me, listen to me rant about Elves and Ainur and Silmarils and try to understand, and, to his credit, doesn't seem at all annoyed when I drool uncontrollably over Feanor (I think I'm the only Feanor fangirl I know...). It's nice of him to pretend to care. [img]smilies/wink.gif[/img] __________________ "Candy: tastes like chicken, if chicken was a candy."

01-11-2004, 11:41 AM	#14
Oroaranion Haunting Spirit Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Dol Amroth Posts: 94	HMMM... well my very recent ex girlfriend has read the books once, and seen the first two movies, but she is not as obsessed about it as me. Also my friends think I am weird and there is only one person I can really talk about it to (the guy who be short, see, we're in the same year at school). Why is being interested in LotR considered weird? __________________ I go to my fathers. And even in their mighty company I shall not now be ashamed. I felled the black serpent. A grim morn, and a glad day, and a golden sunset!

01-11-2004, 03:27 PM	#15
Fosco Burrows Pile O'Bones Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Whitwell Posts: 19	My girlfriend was converted by me after I was converted by my workmates. My uni housemate is semi-converted which is a nightmare as all he does is ask questions about the films but refuse to read the books!! FB __________________ "What's that?" "This my friend is a pint" "It comes in pints? I'm getting one!"

01-15-2004, 10:59 PM	#16
DarkRose Wight Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Sauron's Garden Posts: 157	All of my past "love interests", if you will (I have issues with formal titles and such [img]smilies/wink.gif[/img] ) have not like LOTR in the least. They find it weird and strange and go no further than that. They'd rather be horsing around or watching NFL on television. Ah, such is my luck. [img]smilies/rolleyes.gif[/img] __________________ "All rivers go to the sea, yet never does the sea become full."

01-15-2004, 11:38 PM	#17
Nilpaurion Felagund Scion of The Faithful Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: The brink, where hope and despair are akin. [The Philippines] Posts: 5,430	My alter-ego hates LotR. Wait, I need to explain. He's a psychopatic serial killer who's after only one cross paths... [img]smilies/rolleyes.gif[/img] EDIT: Get out of here, Nilpaurion...it's for partners, not alter-egos. [ January 16, 2004: Message edited by: Someone who cares ] __________________ フェンリス鴨 (Fenrisu Kamo) The plot, cut, defeated. I intend to copy this sig forever - so far so good...

02-14-2004, 02:15 AM	#18
silma Guest Posts: n/a	My boyfriend loathes anything to do with LotR and he's not even read the books!!!! In fact he hates it so much he wouldn't even go to see the films with me. He gets annoyed with me cause I spend so much time online talking to other Tolkien fans cause he thinks I should be spending the time with him. Don't get me wrong, this is the only issue we have everything else is great, but it can be really hard for me because this has been my greatest interest for the past 20 years of my life and I can't do without (I tried for the first couple of years but I just got so unhappy) Anytime I mention anything Tolkien related I can see his eyes glaze over and a scowl appear on his usually handsome face, I really would like to share this with him but it's never going to happen.

02-17-2004, 09:46 AM	#19
Feanor of the Peredhil La Belle Dame sans Merci Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: perpetual uncertainty Posts: 5,956	Oooh... I was so scared recently... I've been interested in the same guy for monthes now, and it's finally going somewhere, but I was terrified that he'd hate LotR and think I'm nuts, since most of my friends are like that. Then what happens? He took me to see RotK and revealed that he's got the Extended Editions of both FotR and TTT!!! Mind you, we did make fun of a little bit of the movies... actually, a lot. But not the books. Never the books. Ooh... so great. The last guy I was interested in though... his LotR knowledge extended about as far as "That gay Elf guy that all the girls have the hots for." It was pretty funny, actually... Fea Oh yeah- Altariel, I've got a bit of a Feanor thing too. I've spent over an hour arguing with my teachers about his "evilness" It was NOT his fault! He was the best, of course... even the Valar admitted it. __________________ peace

02-18-2004, 06:33 AM	#20
Eorl of Rohan Ghost Prince of Cardolan Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Seoul, South Korea Posts: 602	I am the ONLY person I ever know in REAL world who READ LOTR. It frustrates me. At least you have people you can discuss the book with, however much they hate it. In Korea, LOTR translation is twisted to a baby story with lots of color pictures portraying Sauron as wearing a large helmet and big boots with a sword. They ask me in wonder, "I thought you were a bookworm! I never knew you'd read childish fantasies like THESE," whic h makes me explode and recite all the poetry in LOTR. They can't understand English, though, so... I do not have a boyfriend, but I ahve many friends, whom all runs for cover if I mention LOTR. __________________ There is no signature here.