A Measure of Success

[Rimbaud]

But the moderators are in danger of becoming this big, omnipotent power who is unconnected.

I would question this very strongly. I know how much effort the moderators in the Shire and Rohan put into reading all the games, getting to know as many writers as they can, and offering advice where needed. I do not think you will find a site with Role Play this well moderated, with this level of care, respect and attention, anywhere on the net. No substantive post is deleted or edited silently. All things are done through discussion and mediation, either public or more normally and properly private. That does not sound overly dictactorial to me.