Was one of the nine female?

[The Saucepan Man]

Tolkien lived through the rain of Queen Elizabeth

I assume that you mean Queen Elizabeth II, since JRRT was not that old!! And us Brits are still living through her reign.

I'm not sure that JRRT would have seen Queens as necessarily weaker. After all, two of the strongest monarchs that we have had were women: Elizabeth I and Victoria.