Eöl

[*Varda*]

Eol seemingly did little wrong in taking her as his wife. She was wandering alone, in his woodland, and he merely set an enchantment making it difficult for her to leave the wood; it does not say that he charmed her into the actual marriage so we must presume she was willing.

Fair enough, she wandered into his woods. That doesn't mean she was willing to marry someone she'd never met.

To me, making it near impossible for her to leave again is hardly a little thing to do - I don't think it makes him evil, but he was setting up the situation to best suit him. It didn't seem to be Aredhel's choice, although she seemed to be happy enough with her life thereafter.

It is not said that Aredhel was wholly unwilling

She may not have been completely against it, but 'wholly unwilling' doesn't make her sound very certain of it either.

[Eomer of the Rohirrim]

Like, I was attacked by a Warg, but it wasn't the worst thing that could have happened...

The style of the sentence definitely suggests that it wasn't what Aredhel wanted.

[the phantom]

definitely suggests that it wasn't what Aredhel wanted

I'm not sure I agree with that. For one thing, Aredhel seems like the type that does what she wants, so I doubt she'd marry Eol if she didn't want to.

And when she told her son stories about the Noldor-

In the telling of these tales there was awakened in Aredhel a desire to see her own kin again...

Notice that it "awakened" the desire, meaning that the desire had been asleep previously. Until that time she did not want to leave. For a while she was content to wander with Eol "far together under the stars or by the light of the sickle moon". I don't think Tolkien threw in that pleasant sentence just for the fun of it, and the way he used the word "together" also makes me think the situation was to Aredhel's liking.

I think that when she married Eol, she wanted to, but then later grew weary of the life she had chosen.

Just like in Gondolin.

[Eomer of the Rohirrim]

I think she was a 'fine, whatever' type. She wandered into this maze from which she could not get out, met this strange guy and just up and married him. Live for the moment and all that. Her indecision (especially compared with other characters) argues in support of this.

[Kuruharan]

Flighty is a good word to describe Aredhel. Not a good type of person for a somber and restrained individual like Eol to marry.

[Lalwendë]

I think that if Aredhel was determined enough to defy Turgon and demand that she be allowed to leave, then she would be quite capable of denying Eol, if she had wanted to. She may well have been flighty as Eol likens her to a caged bird and I get the impression that she did not truly 'know herself'. In the terms of the story she may not have been right for Eol, but he must have seen some kind of spirit within her that attracted him - I think where it went wrong was when Eol started to leave her alone and her mind turned to thoughts of her former life. But to see somebody and quickly end up together with them is not unusual, certainly not in terms of Tolkien, and not in terms of the real world.

[Eomer of the Rohirrim]

Certainly not unusual, but often not wise.