Tolkien’s Problematic Fathers

[Lindolirian]

Hmm I had never thought of it much.

I don’t normally draw connections between the text and the author’s biography

Neither do I, but...
I don't know a lot about Tolkien's childhood, but if I'm not mistaken his own father died when he was three. Perhaps this had an profound effect on his ficitonal fathers. Quite a few of my friends in the real world have divorced parents and my best friend's father died when he was in fifth grade. I know that they have (hidden) thoughts of jealousy when my dad takes us tobogganing or to a theme park, or other stuff with the group of friends. While this doesn't quite explain everything, it seems quite plausible that the lack of a father in young Tolkien's life made big difference in his writing. I wouldn't to theorize on things like hidden anger against those who do have fathers, but it could be true.
O and by the way...

Elrond and Turgon, for example, made things pretty sticky for Aragorn and Beren

It was Thingol who had the beef with Beren. Turgon rather liked the thought of Tuor marrying Idril. It's okay, even the best of us make mistakes. Wait a sec, you are one of the best of us.