Was it mean by Elrond?

[Gayalondiel]

aside from all the deep issues of foresight and such, it's not the easiest decision in the world to lose your daughter like that. Both fathers were expecting their children to live forever, but here come these men and inflict mortal death on them. And its not like they get a long time to deal before it happens - the life span of a mortal, even a long-lived one like Aragorn, is basically peanuts to an Elf. So yes, they probably are a bit bitter about it, but that's pretty undersatndable really.